My first boyfriend and I lived together for four years and had the wildest sex life I've had with anyone to date. We were both nymphos, and kinky ones at that with an open approach to sex that was as healthy as it was fun. We'd try just about anything once, and neither of us had any hang-ups about experiencing pleasure in whatever form it could be found. In other words, we were/are both bisexual.
For those that don't know it, there is something absolutely amazing about bisexual men, and women that think it's too-unmasculine or consider it an unattractive thought are truly missing out. Perhaps it's that I've always been so comfortable with my own sexuality, knowing I was attracted to women long before I was ever attracted to men and accepting it without much thought or worry. I jokingly referred to myself as a "dyke who likes dick" for some time. Whatever the case, I have always been drawn to bisexual or effeminate men. This became clear to me only after a guy I had the hots for, a close friend of my boyfriend and I's, turned out to be a cross-dresser. We, being regular and full-time freaks, were the first people this man had ever confessed his secret to and we joyfully helped him go out shopping after that for dresses and wigs; it was fun. I've heard that today he lives somewhere out in California as a full-time Dominatrix; and as a woman. That was the first time I noticed a pattern in the men I was attracted to.
My current boyfriend is the only straight man I've ever dated - and while he's all man, he still falls somewhere in the middle; probably more metrosexual than anything though I hate to use the term b/c it's been so over-used. I had hoped he'd turn out, after all, to be into men - but he's as straight as an arrow. Hey, you can't win all the time.
Most of my female friends are confused by my love of bisexual men. They can't imagine dating a man who is into other men - who's, basically, half or almost gay. The idea they have in their heads, I'm sure, is of some foppish, flaming individual who is a total bottom. Nothing could be further from the truth. To me, a bisexual man is a true hedonist - a man so into carnal bliss and the heights of pleasure that he is open and willing to experience it in any form - whether it be making love to a female or another male. A man so comfortable in his sexuality that he can love and fuck either sex without sending his own mind into a state of turmoil is an exceptional individual - especially in the society we live in today where's it's just becoming "slightly" okay to be gay and completely looked down upon by almost everyone to be male and bisexual (from straight to gay people). I can't think of a single thing more erotic than seeing my man, my normally strong and manly man, succumbing to the taboo pleasure of another man's touch.
The men I've dated that are bisexual have been amazing lovers. Never will you find a straight man (my present one included) so in touch with feminine desires and needs. I've never met a straight man that was as sensual as the bisexual lovers I have had (and I've had my share of both). I'm not saying there are not totally straight men out there that are in touch with their feminine sides and are sensual and adept lovers; just that the majority of the ones I've come across were not. There is something intriguing about a man that can be attracted to other men - something dark and mysterious and erotic; to know they are so into sex, such lovers of pure pleasure that they would seek out in any form. That is a man this nympho can get into.
Likely, there are more people that think like you than we know... they just either won't be honest with themselves about those feelings or desires, or they aren't ready to say it out loud. Either way, too bad for them. Me, I suddenly feel like you are in my head. Or maybe I'm in your's.
Comment by Jym — December 17, 2009 @ 3:49 pm